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| Tobes, 1 year ago |
My post on Fatherhood came easily to me. My husband is inspiring, and an amazing father to my 2 children. More than I could ever ask for. It was easy to write about such a fantastic parent.
But what do I say about motherhood? And while I just celebrated my 4th anniversary as a mother, what makes what I have to say any more inspiring than anyone else?
I do not pretend to be an expert, and I do not pretend to be flawless. If anything, I am still climbing a very steep learning curve.
But this is what I HAVE learned about myself and motherhood in the last 4 years...
- Time for myself doesn't have to be time by myself, but it's important either way.
- I find the company of a 4 year old to be one of great fun, and great laughter. Most of the time.
- I finally appreciate my mom's "wait until it's your turn" comment when she seemed frazzled after I spent hours talking nonstop growing up...
- It's ok to be frustrated sometimes.
- It's ok to make mistakes. As long as Princess doesn't write a memoir...
- I am a good mom despite showering alone, having a hairstyle that takes time to style, scrapbooking, or spending money on things for me (those "repost this if you are a REAL mom..." statuses on facebook KILL me!)
- I am crazy-proud of my children for the most ridiculous things.
- I am not as patient as I thought I was. Actually, that's not true. I am just as impatient as I thought I was. And it's my impatience that is my daily lesson.
- Though it may take time for me to gather up courage, I am willing and able to do whatever it takes to protect me and my family no matter what I'm protecting them from.
- To do what's best for me, and to do what's best for my children aren't always the same, but I hope that I will always find a way to keep them compatible.
- Discipline and guiding behaviour is infinitely more daunting a task than I ever imagined.
- Motherhood is, at the end of the day, about raising a person. Someday Princess and Tobes will be contributing members of society, and I hope that my family's values and beliefs are instilled in them. I hope they are happy, productive people. I hope they never question God's love for them, and I hope they never question our love for them.
I have no idea why I never found your blog before today. But now I'm subbed up and will be stalking (er, following) your every post! :)
ReplyDeleteThis post is absolutely beautiful! I totally feel you on every point. Especially about me time not having to be time alone. And the impatience...oh, my do I relate to that. :S
"Though it may take time for me to gather up courage, I am willing and able to do whatever it takes to protect me and my family no matter what I'm protecting them from."
That left me in tears. So very true. Thank you for stating it so eloquently. :)
Forgive my delay in responding, Aramelle (though I did respond in your journal), I'm so glad this post spoke to you. Thank you for your many compliments, and I'm very glad to hear that I'm not alone (especially in the impatience!)
ReplyDeleteOf COURSE you, as a mother, want what's best for your child. And OF COURSE you want to protect your child from harm. I don't know a single person who would actively place their child in harm purposefully (accidentally, or selfishly is another story).
But sometimes the danger isn't obvious, or the decision is much harder or seemingly has too many cons to outweigh the pros. And that's when it's difficult. And that's when it kind of sucks.
Many hugs to you, and your awesome family (I've added you to my blog roll ;))